- 1: to become different
- 2: to undergo a transformation, transition, or substitution
Our lives and bodies are changing all the time.
These are subtle changes that we hardly notice or feel, and most of these are just part of the norm. Our face changes as we grow older; we change direction when driving; opinions change; weather change … most of these are common and fairly harmless changes.
We don’t dwell on these changes. We just make a decision spontaneously or routinely. The outcome is predictable and often with a little visible impact on anyone. Well, if we are talking about making changes while driving to avoid another car, then yes it is life-altering.
Change becomes more challenging when we have to decide upon bigger decisions – life-changing decisions that will impact the daily routines. It jeopardizes our sanity and we feel vulnerable. It is a risky decision that requires a fair bit of thought and perhaps even planning.
Many people object to such changes as they are not necessary, or so we think when we are introduced to the idea of changing something in our lives. We thrive on safety and fear of risky changes.
What if the change fails and we are then left in a worse situation?
Well, what if we do not make the change, then what?
In the past 12 months, I’ve made big changes, and on every occasion, the changes turned out to be excellent. Daunting and scary, yes, but the outcomes have been positive.
Some changes were forced on me, without little inputs from me. Others required more consideration as the change did not only impact me as a person, but it directly impacted my family and colleagues.
The heart incident 12 months ago made me rethink my life. The dietician presented me with a list of foods I should avoid if I wanted to have a chance to recover, and my cardiologist said my success would be greater with lifestyle changes.
The change was mandatory. I wanted to live and live longer. It was a no brainer to be fully honest, so I dived in with both legs and submerged myself in a full lifestyle change. And it has been a somewhat painless experience and has been successful.
I’ve dropped 50+ lbs. I sleep much better. I don’t snore anymore. I have not had a headache in 12 months. I feel stronger and healthier. It’s all good!
The other significant change that change my life took longer to digest. I knew it had to be done. I needed a work environment where I could thrive and also reduce stress levels. The challenge was; I loved my work, my colleagues, the commute was easy, benefits great, the flexibility of work schedule amazing and I had been with the firm for 20+ years.
You just don’t walk away from 20 years of commitment, and the firm had been superb during my illness.
A change suddenly appeared on the horizon. A company expressed interest in bringing me on, working as the head of IT. The potential new employer seemed great and had a wonderful mission. It was a career opportunity that is always positive.
I was not considering this for the money, and to be honest, I would take a slight pay cut.
My wife and I discussed this for many evenings, and we decided I should go for it. These opportunities don’t come often, and we were in a good place financially.
Leaving the old job was painful and sad, but joining the new company was amazing and exciting. It had to be done, and it would allow me to work in a less stressful environment plus finally be the boss 🙂
Both changes affected my family, and it has been a joyful change. It would not have worked if my wife had not supported me. We need to make these decisions together, as a team, otherwise, it can destroy relationships.
My advice to you is, be prepared for changes. Evaluate the change and its outcome. Discuss it with your partner. Make sure it would work for your family and then jump on the change.
Most changes will have positive outcomes, and you should not be afraid to make changes. I know it can be daunting, but the rewards might outweigh the risks.
I fully appreciate that you are nervous. We want to be financially safe and we want to get rewarded. We fear the unknown and try too often to stick with what makes us safe.
It’s natural and does not make you a lesser person. It makes you human.
Have you made a change recently? How did it go? Any advice?